Conquer your worries before it eats you.

 This sunday i call every friend of mine ,who are in my contact .One common thing i found among all of them is worry, they all worried about their future.This is not uncommon,even i am also worried about my future . Science also says that the age between 18-33 is most common when people are most stressed .

I also thought worrying about future is not bad until i  come across a book by Dale carnegie 
"How to stop worrying and start living"  
It"s may be known to everyone that worrying too much can decline your mental health, as a result your physical health will also decline , but worrying too much can also cause tooth decay (i never knew)and other problems.

Everyone probably knows problems associated with anxiety,worry,insecurity and frankly no one wants to worry knowingly, it"s may be situation that force a person to worry.

So the question is not "How to stop worry but  how to conquer worry" 
It is not very easy to conquer it if you just sit and think ( or it may very slow process) ,as human is social creature so we must learn from other"s kowledge ,what other's had done when they were in the same situation and then think (faster process now).

There is a famous quote by Stephen Leacock " How strange it is ,our little procession of life! ,  the child says 'When I am  a big boy"but What is that ? The big boy says "When i get married" But to be married ,what is that after after all? The thought changes to "When I am able to retire " And then when retirement comes he looks back over the landscape transversed,a cold wind seems to sweep over it; Somehow he has missed it all ,and it is gone . Life we learn too late ,is in the living,in the tissue of every day and hour. 

Willis H carrier , a brilliant engineer used to do followig three steps to overcome worry
1.Ask yourself,"What is the worst that can possibly happen ? when you are worried about something
2.Prepare to accept it if you have to
3. Then calmly proceed to improve on the worst.

Everyone may know some people who are always stressed whatever the situation may be and some people under same circumstance are happy or at least not stressed (I have seen so many people like this). This does not mean people who are not stressed never think about their future, they think but they don"t think about things not in their control.

Thus it is upto you how you are handling the situation. I ,myself actually worried about my future and about other things ,then who am i to giving other"s suggestions . I am Nobody 
to give other"s suggestions ,by writing these things I am giving  suggestions to myself , 
my heart talk to my mind or vice versa.

Therefor don"t ever make ,  any destination in your life (and think if you reach there you will be the happiest peson), somehow i feel this is the biggest reason for misery.
And Ralph Waldo Emerson (an american poet) said "Life is a journey not destination" 

So next time whenever you are worried , just say to yourself ,    if i want to make my future better ,I need to conquer this worry and focus on what i have" 

For an real example read the story of hungarian shooter " Karoly Takacs"   
The link is below 
https://worldsimplified.wordpress.com/2011/08/14/karoly-takacs/

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Can you be a multitalented person ?

Few days back i saw a question on quora "should a scientist have knowledge about literature? ".

I mean where are we going, why  a scientist should not know about literature,if he/she has interest.

I remember a story in my school english book " Further progress in specialisation"    written by stephen leacock, where he beautifully describe how specialisation going to affect human life, if you did not read it please read it once. 

Then i remember life of ancient geniuses, one of them is "Leonardo da vinci" , think about his life he was a  painter, scientist, anatomist,  musician, mathematican and much more .In todays world one may think how it is possible but they were also homo sapiens like us. They showed us one can have more than one passion, you need to just explore .

He always said "Science and arts is never different, they are for each other" .

da vinci is not the only person to have expertise in multiple areas, there are lot more people like him.

Nature never discriminate things or subjects,it uses everything for it"s good, it"s humans who devide things for making understanding easier, that does not mean they are not connected to each other.

So explore yourself , do things that you like or you think you like , you might discover a hidden talent in yourself.

I have decided not to stop myself experimenting with various things (which i think i have interest).

That"s why i try to write in blog   ,i don"t know wheather i am good at writing, but i feel good.

It"s easy to find something in life for living and settle down but then you never know you have other potentials also, obviously it is not an easy path  but probably this is the way to live life to it"s fullest .

And then remember about "Leonardo di ser Piero da vinci" and other people who who never stop themselves from learning something new and gain expertise in that.

Write now what are my interests, "chemistry, psychology,philosophy,writing,reading various books(non fiction one specially),music,history etc, i am trying to grow in these areas.

so next time when you think you might have interest in something, don"t stop yourself, try it    you may find a new talent in yourself.

Leonardo  da  vinci

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You need a mentor in your life, do you believe it?

Last Tuesday on 28th March was one of the golden day of my life, when I met one of the great chemist of this century prof. K.C nicolau,those who read chemistry must heard this name somewhere. As expected i listened his lecture and mesmerized seeing those big molecules he synthesised in his laboratory, but the real incident happened when I went to talk with him, initially I hesitated what to say this great scientist but somehow I started the conversion and then I  realise why he is great.Its not only his work( obviously it is main thing) but the kind of human being he is showed why he is great, i remember a famous line '

the more fruits and flowers grow in a tree, more the tree bend' this person exactly proved that.                                       I actually have good fortune to meet some great personalities ,from last few months and I hope it will continue. Few days back I attend a seminar presented by a south African lady Cathy o'dowd' who is the first lady of south Africa to climb mount everest in 1999 and first lady of world to climb mount everest from both sides. They have something special,maybe their consciousness level is greater than average person because they struggle a lot or they have saw death from very near. probably that's why they understand life better than an ordinary person. Whatever it be the thing is ,how does they remain so positive,energetic all time don't they have problems ? I am sure they have, but as prof. Nicolai said to me' problems  will always be there, you need to change your mentality

 towards problems'.May be everybody know this thing, but when a great person says ,that means he experienced it also and that increases it's value.      

         I finish by saying, why it is important to appreciate others learn from others, this reminds me one of chanakya's (Indian philosopher) line  ' learn from others mistake, others success, because  your life will fall short if everything in life you going to experience by yourself and then learn'.

Live your life like a king

What are the things that do not matter in life? by Curt Barter https://www.quora.com/What-are-the-things-that-do-not-matter-in-life/answer/Curt-Barter-1?srid=utU4O&share=abdc86ab

Life purpose

What is the one thing that motivates you in life whenever you think about it? by Awdhesh Singh https://www.quora.com/What-is-the-one-thing-that-motivates-you-in-life-whenever-you-think-about-it/answer/Awdhesh-Singh-1?srid=utU4O&share=d50a4171

What can i give

Today I bought a book name 'what can I give' by srijan pal Singh on Dr apj Abdul kalam's (my roll model) teaching .Every time I read a book on him or by him , I astonish how a soul can be sooo pure, I and guess everyone get immense inspiration from him.                                       So I also want to give something to my people atleast where I grow up, to society.  Write now I don't know how but I will.             Why people become so selfish and self centric in their lives? . They look for happiness, try to achieve it but rarely achieve. Happiness is not an achievement , it's a state of mind. From last two three years I have read a lot about these things ,and which shape my thinking like a philosopher (my friend's say, I also believe).I want to be a happy person in life ( like everyone wants).          Happiness truly comes from within (not temporary one) when we help others anyway. Apj Abdul kalam Sir ,you have taught us the biggest lessons of life.Thank you God for sending such a soul to earth, to India.